Name(s): Carla Blowey
Occupation: certified dream work facilitator, speaker, author
How did you come to be doing the work you do? I’ve kept a journal since I was a teenager but never thought of being a writer. After my son Kevin died in a bike/truck accident, I had a wonderful grief counselor who encouraged me to record my dreams and continue writing and
journaling. Reviewing my daily entries of my dreams at our weekly sessions was very therapeutic because it allowed me to see my inner world and my waking world differently, defusing the fearful images that held me captive. A few years later, I began writing about living my “nightmare”- the prophetic dream I had the night before Kevin’s accident and the spiritual transformation that occurred for both of us.
Writing the book was liberating and the process was divinely inspired, taking me deeper than I had gone before bringing new insights and acceptance. Dreaming Kevin truly was my path to healing and writing about it enabled me to reclaim my life and voice the unspeakable. I never imagined that I would be facilitating dream workshops for other bereaved parents or work as an editor of a bereavement magazine. It’s been a challenging and blessed journey toward health and wholeness.
Tell us about your family: I am so blessed to have the most loving and supportive husband and children! I love them all the way to the moon and back a million times. In 1991, we were a young, middle class family – a teacher and a hairdresser raising our two precious children in a small town in the southwest. We lived, we laughed, and we loved with great passion until a violent bike/truck accident claimed the life of our five-year-old son. In an instant, we became a family of three living every parent’s worst nightmare. Five months later, grieving deeply, I
became pregnant with our third child! In addition, three years later, our fourth child! The age difference between the oldest and youngest is thirteen years , so we’ve actually raised two sets of children.
Amber, our oldest child commented once that her siblings would “never really know what it was like for us before Kevin died”. Sadly, I agreed. We were different parents, our innocence tainted, and our spontaneity crushed. I mistakenly believed that I had failed my son as a mother by not heeding what I perceived to be a warning and saving his life. I didn’t believe I was worthy of being given the gift of life. Ultimately, all my children have raised my awareness to live more consciously and have helped redefine the parameters of love. This past year marks the 20th anniversary of Kevin’s transition and with it the celebration of the birth of our first grandchild. God’s timing is impeccable. 
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What are your passions in life? I’m passionate about living an authentic life, honoring my truth, and expressing gratitude; I’m passionate about being a dream worker and facilitating the transformative power of dreams for psychological and spiritual growth; I’m passionate about my love for my family, friends and my soul-sisters because I would not have
survived without them.
Our readers are mostly mothers—what would you like them to know? Everything you need to know for the life journey is within you waiting to serve your highest good…trust your instincts and be true to yourself. As a young mother, I struggled with keeping a balance between family and a career. I wasted a lot of time and energy worrying about whether I was
doing it right or if I was good enough. I was also overwhelmed by intense bouts of grieving and I was not as present for the second round of children in those early years. However, when I did let go of my expectations and judgments on how it was supposed to be or who I was supposed to be, everything fell into place as it was meant to be! Of course, hindsight is always clearer but I do wish I had surrendered to the moment more often. Now, I’m absolutely delighted to witness the love affair between my daughter and her precious baby. My heart remembers and I’d like to think it’s what my parents saw between my babies and me as well. “All you can pass on is what you have become;
that is your blessing and your gift for your children, your loved ones, your neighborhood, and the next generaton. Divine love bestowed is repaid by love alone.” (Richard Rohr Adapted from On the Threshold of Transformation, p. 377, day 366.)
Website: www.dreamingkevin.com
Facebook: Dreaming Kevin The Path to Healing; and Carla Blowey (Dreaming Kevin)
To schedule an individual dream work session, dream workshop or program, in person or on SKYPE, contact Carla at carla@dreamingkevin.com.
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Elke, thank you for sharing this beautiful story. Carla you are one amazing woman. I so admire your courage, strength and love. I nearly lost my oldest son and if I had, I am not sure that I could have handled it with the wisdom and grace that you have shown. You are an inspiration to mothers everywhere.